102 “Open When” Letter Topics


Open When letters are a great way to keep in touch with your loved one and send a little instant encouragement. They’re also fantastic for deployments that may be difficult to get mail to (like submarines or special ops) or situations that don’t have ready internet access.

If you haven’t sent an Open When letter, it’s as simple or involved as you want it to be. At the simplest, you write a letter for each topic, and then enclose it in an envelope with the instructions written on the front. When John deployed to Afghanistan, I made 30 open when letters to guarantee that he had mail for at least a month. (I wasn’t sure how long it would take mail to get to Afghanistan at the time.)

If you want to get a little crazier and creative, think about enclosing small gifts that have to do with the topic or decorating the outsides. For example, for my sister’s going away party, my other sister and I made 30 Open When letters each all with very specific, very in-joke-y topics and contents. “When You’re Missing America” had a packet of peanut butter inside. “When you need a laugh” included quotes from Arrested Development. “When you need to party’ had a deflated balloon in it. You get the picture. See an example of what they look like here.

 

You can give a packet of open when letters at the beginning of the separation or send them later in a care package. It’s up to you and the situation to decide when’s best to give them.

Most of these topics are self-explanatory; however, for those that aren’t, I’ve added notes on the side to point you in a direction, if you need a little help getting started.

And if you need more, here are 55 more open when letter topics for you.

Open when…

1. it’s your birthday. Send a picture of you wearing a party hat.

2. it’s my birthday.

3. you’re missing home. 

4. you’re missing me.

5. you need a kiss. Enclose a piece of paper you’ve kissed with heavy lipstick.

6. you need a hug. Send cut outs of your hands connected by a ribbon or string, the length of your arms. It’s a mailable hug!

7. you’re stressed out.

8. you need to smile. 

9. you need a laugh.

10. you’re feeling goofy. Include the dorkiest knock-knock or inside jokes you can think of.

11. you’re feeling down.

12. you need strength.

13. you’re bored.

14. you’re having a bad day.

15. you’re having a great day. Include a mini banner or a small bag of confetti.

16. you want to talk to me. Include a piece of stationary, envelope, and a note to write you a letter.

17. you are celebrating an accomplishment. Send a “#1” pin. (You can find these at party stores pretty easily.)

18. we’ve said goodbye

19. you’ve been deployed for 30 days. 

20. you’re halfway through with deployment. 

21. you’re in the last month of your deployment. 

22. you’re on the plane/boat home.

23. it’s our anniversary. A small photo album (you can pick them up for $1 at Target or WalMart) or picture or two works well here.

24. we haven’t been able to talk in a while. A conversational letter might be a great choice for this letter– so it feels like you’re talking on the phone.

25. you want to hold my hand. Use a glove to create a handwarmer. Use this easy tutorial to send this romantic gift.

26. you don’t feel loved.

27. you don’t feel respected at work.

28. you don’t feel needed.

29. it’s Christmas. 

30. it’s New Year’s Eve. Send a bag of confetti.

31. it’s New Year’s Day.  Send a list of wishes for the new year.

32. it’s Valentine’s Day.

33. it’s Groundhog’s Day. Give a tip of the hat to Bill Murray and send a letter with the same few sentences on it over and over again.

34. it’s St. Patrick’s Day. 

35. it’s Easter.

36. it’s Memorial Day. 

37. it’s Independence Day. 

38. it’s Talk Like a Pirate Day. Send a letter on a tea-stained scroll that they can open on Sept. 19.

39. it’s Halloween. 

40. it’s Veterans Day. 

41. it’s Thanksgiving.

42. it’s [insert holiday of your choosing]. 

43. it’s the first day of Winter.

44. it’s the first day of Spring.

45. it’s the first day of Summer.

46. it’s the first day of Fall.

47. it’s [child’s name] birthday.

Saving later for deployment! open when letters

48. you need a reminder of how much I love you.

49. you’re feeling nostalgic. Include photos from early in your relationship.

50. you’re feeling sick. Include cough drops or a travel-sized tablet of Airborne

51. you can’t sleep. Include a tea bag of peppermint or lavender tea.

52. you’re tired. 

53. you’re homesick. Include a postcard from home.

54. you miss the USA.

55. you need me. 

56. you’re angry with me.

57. you’ve forgotten what I smell like. Include a small tester of your perfume or spray a piece of cloth with your scent and seal it in a Ziploc.

58. you need a pep talk. 

59. I’m sad and you don’t know what to do.

60. you miss your friends. Collect notes from friends for these Open When letters.

61. you need reassurance.

62. you’re disappointed.

63. I’m angry with you. 

64. you’re tired of deployment.

65. you’re nervous.

66. you’re embarrassed.

67. you’re not sure what to do. 

68. you are impatient.

69. you’re thinking about the future.

70. it’s miserable outside.

71. it’s beautiful outside.

72. you’re thinking about me.

73. you need to complain. Include paper and an envelope with instructions to write down his/her rant and mail them back to you.

74. you need courage.

75. you need to make a decision.

76. you don’t feel appreciated. 

77. you’re ready to give up. 

78. you’re tired of being patient.

79. something isn’t going your way.

80. you need to pray. 

81. you feel really far away. 

82. you feel alone.

83. something’s gone wrong.

84. you want to talk to me and we can’t. 

85. you’ve finished a really good book/show/movie.

86. something exciting happened. 

87. you experienced something you want to share with me.

88. you did something dumb.

89. you’re worried.

90. you’re feeling romantic.

91. you miss our date nights.

92. you want to take your mind off something.

93. you’re discouraged. 

94. you need to hear a few compliments.

95. you need a reminder why I love you. 

96. you’re missing our/your pet. Picture opportunity!

97. you’re missing our kids.  Send artwork or letters from your kiddos. If they’re too young for that, send pictures. (Or send all three and split it up in multiple envelopes.)

98. you feel left out. 

99. you’ve been deployed for a week. Send a party confetti popper.

100. you need to make a decision. An encouraging note, quotes, or religious verses would work well for this letter.

101. you feel caged.

102. you want to open a letter.

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42 Responses

  1. These are such great ideas! I wish I would have thought of this when my husband was still in the Army, he was deployed so much! Your hubby is lucky to have such a thoughtful wife!

  2. Great ideas and so many applications! Am thinking a great thing to do for college students, aging parents/grandparents, extended family etc! Love it :)!

  3. I love that you can not only use these for your military spouse, but also a college student or someone who has to be far away. What great ideas!

  4. This is absolutely adorable and really helpful for finishing this project for my love while we are apart this summer. Super helpful and so cute! You’re all correct- we are in college and some times the distance gets hard. This will hopefully help him and benefit myself in the end. Thank you!

  5. Oh gosh! This is like the holy grail for open when letters!! Thank you SO much!!! My fiancee is in the Air Force and is away at Tech school so this is perfect!!!

  6. so lovely- I’m doing deployment package as my boyfriend is in the rag and leAving in a couple of weeks, and will be away for our anniversary. Needed a few more ideas. Thank you

  7. My boyfriend is about to be deployed for 9 months (our first together) and I will definitely be using some of these! Thanks so much!

  8. My boyfriend just left for his first ever deployment and I was looking for ways to surprise him with his first care package and these are awesome!! Definitely going to make the next 9 months go faster! Thank you so much for taking the time to put this list together!

  9. We are about to go through our first deployment together. And I’ve gotta tell ya.. I think your blog has made me feel so much better about this whole thing. I’ve been dreading the thought of him leaving. But you’ve helped me to realize that I can bring out my “creative” side to help bring me a bit closer to him! I’m so in love with everything you have on here!
    You are AWESOME!

  10. wish I would have had this list before our eldest son went on his LDS mission. Keeping it for our next one.

  11. What can I write/put for “You miss the USA” ? *I’m living in France but my SO is American and in the US Air Force deploying in few months*

  12. I liked all of the ideas and used a couple of them when making my special someone these letters. Thank you.

  13. These are great ones. I have done a set for deployment open me when letters and a nice one I created was. Open me when…you need a reminder that everything you do is for a reason and worth it. Its like a reminder of why they joined in the first place and gives a slight boost as they realise they are doing what they wanted

  14. My boyfriend and I don’t see each other much, but he is coming over for Labor Day. I have been wanting to make open when letters, but was always stumped on what ones to make. This definitely helped and now I can finally make them.

  15. Thanks you so much for making this. My boyfriends dad just made him move back in with his mom and she lives in Montana and I live in Minnesota. We have only been together for about half a year but being away from him will be hard because I have severe separation anxiety. I wrote all the topics for him for when he comes back and visits for the first time.

  16. this was such a great website my 2 year anniversary is coming up and i was dumbfounded on what to do for him so when i found this website i knew exactly what i was going to do thank you! please post more ideas

  17. These are such great ideas. These work really well when two are apart in distance

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