My first Christmas as a military spouse, I was an emotional wreck. John and I were celebrating the season away from home, and while it wasn’t the first time for him, it was the first time for me.
It probably goes without saying that the season was a roller coaster. There were highs and lows and in-betweens. I was totally psyched to have the chance to start our own traditions and choose which traditions we were going to bring from each one of our families. But I was missing my family terribly.
It didn’t help that John was working a ridiculously crazy shift that kept us sleep-deprived and made sure that we had just a few minutes together every day. There wasn’t a lot of time to talk about everything that was happening and how we felt about it. And that resulted in some pretty comical fights that we can laugh at looking back on now. (Seriously, who fights about which version to use of the same cookie recipe? I’m definitely chalking that one up to sleep deprivation. )
Every year, I’ve written a little bit about how to survive the holidays, and I’ve collected it all in one place so that you can find exactly what you need when you need it.
It’s okay if you’re having a hard time being away from your family. Here are some ways to cope.
Dealing with uncertainty
When everything feels up in the air (as it often can in military life), these tips might help you find some balance and stability.
Highly charged holidays can present difficult times with a lot of frustration. These tips can help you navigate the holidays using communication techniques that work, whether your family is a mile away or 5,000.
The holidays can be joyful… and they can also be insanely isolating. If you’re feeling incredibly lonely this year, you’re not alone.
Not feeling so jolly?
If you haven’t found the Christmas spirit this year, take a deep breath. You’re not a weirdo.
Just dealing. Period.
Perhaps you’re so overwhelmed you don’t know exactly where to start. This advice from real life military spouses can help you.